Monday, February 27, 2017

Whale Rider - Of Pride and Prejudice



In every generation, there arises the quintessential chief of the Maori people. A male first-born child who is said to claim its descent from Paikea, the whale rider who was originally from Hawaii. This is the pretence upon which Witi Ihimaera builds his novel around, upon which this film is based.

The film starts itself off with feelings of death. Death of a mother and child, death of a relationship between father and son, death of a male lineage. It is here that a little girl named Paikea emerges from the sorrow surrounding the family, and from here on little Pai does everything within her power in order to be part of her tribe and accepted by her grandfather.



The entire film revolves itself around the relationship between Koro and Pai, this grandfather and grand-daughter duo seem to have a close affiliation with one another in the beginning of the movie, but as it progress we see that Koro has not lost his yearning for a strong male to follow in his footsteps, and soon begins the quest to find a suitable heir amongst the young boys in the Maori village.

But at each trial, it appears that the only one to prevail is little Pai. She can fight, recite the chants of her people, and was able to claim back the tooth of a whale that none of the other boys had managed to do before.





And yet with these triumphs, the only one unable to see Pai's potential is Koro himself, he still trusts that a first-born male would succeed himself in becoming the next chief of the Maori people. And it isn't until the beach is littered with the bodies of humpback whales who seem to want to die along the coast, and he sees Paikea riding a whale like the Paikea of legend, that Koro changes his mind about little Pai becoming the next leader of his people.


Patriarchy 


A social structure where males are considered to have dominion over females, has stemmed its way from evolutionary psychology (Walby, 1990). In patriarchies, males are considered to have a monopoly on power while females are expected to submit to the same power.



While this may have made more logical sense in the days of our cave-dwelling ancestors where brawn superseded any other skills we may have had during that time, this is hardly the case in our current century. This is the foundation on which Social Darwinism theory is based off of. Dickens (2000) expounded rather boldly on the topic saying that, the biological differences in both sexes are what has contributed to the differences in how society treats either gender, and although many disagree to it, the treatment of males and females has been designed to have males come out as the superior gender.

Today most of the world has given females the same human rights as males, the right to education, to drive, to enter a male-dominated vocation, and to vote. But one thing seems to have remained constant since the time of cavemen to today, is that males make better leaders than their female counterparts. No evidence has yet to prove if leadership qualities are based on a biological pre-disposition, and it is only lately that we are understanding the role of the matriarch in the family is as vital than that of the patriarch. 



In the film, it is almost shameful to see how the other members of the Maori tribe blindly follow their leader without any thought of why it is compulsory for their leader to be male. They allow Koro to act in the manner that he does and no one stands up to question the legitimacy of their leader or his decisions. It is for that reason that I had really enjoyed the character of Nanny Flowers; wife to Koro and grandmother to Pai, she seems to not only hold her own during the course of the film, but to also aid her family in pushing the boundaries of their backward ways.

It is no surprise that after years of blindly agreeing to follow male leaders simply on the fact that they were born as males, many theories have come to disprove patriarchy and social darwinism for a more egalitarian view of the sexes. Bloodworth (1990) had done just that in her debunking of patriarchism for the idealism of feminine authority. Her work stated that society needed to not just work on the idea of equal opportunities, but also a change of mindset of females being considered somehow inferior to males due to nothing more than biology. In as much as society is progressing to not consider race or religion as measures in determining one's merit, so must we do the same when taking gender into consideration.



That is not to say that females are entitled to have anything more than a male would, females should have to prove their worth at being as good as or even better than males at any particular field. Paikea never thought that she was entitled to become the chief simply because she was born into a particular family, in fact she made she that she worked harder and succeeded in whatever tasks she was made to accomplish. She never saw herself as anything of less worth simply because she was born female instead of male, she only saw that being chief meant looking out for the welfare of her people and took joy in keeping the customs and traditions of her tribe.

References:

Bloodworth, S. (1990). The poverty of patriarchy theory. Socialist Review2, 5-33.

Dickens, P. (2000). Social Darwinism: Linking evolutionary thought to social theory. Open University Press.

Walby, S. (1990). Theorizing patriarchy.

Monday, February 20, 2017

Forget Paris - A Realistic Charm




Only a few movies have the magical ability of making a well-known city as a character as opposed to being a setting. In this Billy Crystal film, Paris is shown as not only a romantic destination, however it is portrayed as a fantasy world that everyone yearns for and has a struggle getting out of. This movie strikes a chord not only with people involved in a romantic relationship, however it connects with everyone who has a fantasy of their own bliss and happiness and reminds them that it is not going to be excitement and fun all along. 

This movie also had a realistic attempt at portraying an adult relationship with lots of humour in it’s narrative. It didn’t feel like a romance that was tragic even though Mickey and Ellen’s relationship did go through natural ups and downs, mainly due to the brilliant story telling technique of Billy Crystal. There are many romance films out there that just kind of depresses the audience at the end of it, this movie smartly doesn’t do it.

Mickey and Ellen were a classic example of how people find love in a magical land and realise later on that the initial sparks do not sustain a relationship but commitment does. They navigated their relationship by making sacrifices along the way, only to realise that they are losing themselves and their passion.


 
It is easy to see how Sternberg's (1986) Triangular Theory of Love is connected to this motion picture with each segment of Intimacy, Passion, and Commitment playing a role in the relationship of Mickey and Ellen.



In the beginning of their relationship, Passionate love seemed to be the main component of their relationship. An excitement and newness that is commonly associated with butterflies fluttering in your belly and a sexual desire for one another. Mickey and Ellen were practically joined at the hip during their initial courtship but this form of love seemed to fade once the newness had morphed into familiarity and ungratefulness. This is commonly associated with partners who engage in Romantic Love defined with a deficiency of commitment and a short lifespan to whomever partakes in it. What partners in a relationship should strive for is Consummate Love which contains all three aspects including, intimacy, passion and commitment as the ideal standard to which a relationship should adhere to. Not easily attained, but worth the effort in order to achieve a lasting and fulfilling relationship.



More recently, Parker (2001) had applied his theory of marriage into a longitudinal study to showcase what items were most commonly attributed to a fulfilled and successful heterosexual marriage, meaning to imply that those intending to marry should adopt these values in order to consider themselves as happy and fulfilled in their marriage. 

Parker (2001) went on to state that marriage was hardly a bed of roses as most of us are led to believe, instead he used the analogy of a diamond who had to endure oppression, stress, and all with no relief. But in the end its the diamond and not the coal that ends up being beautiful and precious to all who behold it. 

In the same manner, Mickey and Ellen's relationship is all the more beautiful for having gone through the struggles and in the end still choosing to love one another despite everything.

Watching this movie also made me relate it to the Investment Model found by Caryl Rusbult (1998). Commitment can be sustained if the investment grows. Which means the reward in a relationship must be much more than the cost and attractive alternative.

Commitment = Investment + (Rewards - Costs) - Attractive Alternatives



In this movie Ellen portrayed this theory very much. She and her ex-husband were separated for a while and she couldn't make up her mind on whether she wants to divorce him or not because there were no attractive alternatives available but there is a lot of cost which lead to the separation. Things changed when she met Mickey (attractive alternative) she made up her mind and got married to him. It was easier for her to break the dilemma when she had a better option waiting for her. Same goes when she was separated from Mickey because of the increase in the cost but she got together as she realise the cost gets higher with separation (they were more devastated and miserable) and the attractive alternative (going back to Paris) was worthless. So she decides to get back together with him.

References:

Rusbult, C. (1998). The Investment Model Scale. Personal Relationships. Retrieved from http://carylrusbult.com/documents/60_RusbultMartzAgnew1998_PersonalRelationships.pdf

Parker, R. (2001). Why marriages last. Family Matters, 60(28), 30. Retrieved from https://aifs.gov.au/publications/why-marriages-last/export

Sternberg, R. J. (1986). A triangular theory of love. Psychological review93(2), 119.